Woah, this one is painful, ht TM:
“Back when we first met, my irrational and entirely unfounded vision of what you could someday become seemed almost too perfect: kind, thoughtful, caring. That fictional mental construct that I envisioned you eventually developing into was everything I ever wanted. I thought that imaginary version of you and I would be happy together forever.
How wrong I was.
Today, it’s evident that you’re simply not the nonexistent, purely hypothetical person I always wanted to grow old with. Just last week, for example, when you didn’t so much as look up from your laptop after I came home from work, even though you knew I was supposed to hear about my promotion that day, I realized that you aren’t even capable of magically changing into what I need in a husband. When I look at you now, all I see is a workaholic with intimacy issues who has persisted unchanging for the past decade and a half—no longer the ideal husband I convinced myself you would morph into through some miracle. And that’s just sad.
I see it all now. Your outright lack of interest in my sculpture classes and my volunteering work at church, your single-minded obsession with your career, the fact that you explicitly told me on our first date that you never wanted children. I thought those things were important to the theoretical idea of who you’d become in the future that has long lived in my head, and it breaks my heart to realize that they are not.
Honestly, it’s almost as if you’re the exact same man I married.”
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My wife gives me the same recycled Valentine’s Day card every year. It reads: “Some women marry a man, thinking they will make him into the man they want him to be. But I love you just the way you are…
just don’t get any worse.” I haven’t managed that either, but I’ve still been getting that card for many years now.
They should hand this out at premarital counseling.
I like that part in the movie “AS GOOD AS IT GETS” where Helen Hunt? says about Jack Nicolson…”I just want a normal boyfriend! Why can’t I have a normal boyfriend?” I think watching that movie would be good premarital counseling.