Posts tagged "LOVE"
“He loved them all…”  James Rebhorn and the Unanxious Life

“He loved them all…” James Rebhorn and the Unanxious Life

It appears that, before he died on Friday, actor James Rebhorn (Homeland, The Game, Seinfeld) wrote his own obituary. Saint Paul’s Lutheran Church of Jersey City, New Jersey has posted a letter entitled “His Life, According to Jim” which is dated March 2014 and signed by the actor.

This is a rare opportunity for a person who is dying: to have enough notice of one’s impending death in order to make final arrangements, including in this case the crafting of one’s own obituary. Most obituaries, in my honest opinion, are just dreadful–they’re usually written for the distraught family by a close friend, and…

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A Little Is Enough (for Pete Townshend)

A Little Is Enough (for Pete Townshend)

I’ve just finished reading Pete Townshend’s brutally honest autobiography Who I Am, and one section struck me as good Valentines Day fodder. Which may be a little ironic, given that Townshend and The Who are not known for making terribly romantic music. But by way of context, the end of the 70s found Pete in a pretty low place. The Who had suffered the death of drummer Keith Moon (and would soon endure an incredibly tragic riot at one of their concerts in Cincinnati), Pete’s drinking and drug use was off the charts, and that, combined with his philandering, had…

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Mockingbird at the Movies: The Shared Loneliness of Her

Mockingbird at the Movies: The Shared Loneliness of Her

This comes from Emily Stubbs:

Spike Jonze’s newest film, Her, is beautiful, provocative, and, above all, relevant. Man (Theodore Twombley, played by Joaquin Phoenix) falls for highly evolved, Siri-like Operating System next door (Samantha, voice played by none other than Scarlett Johansson). Given its subject matter, the film speaks to many of the fantasies that we place in technology. In this modern era known as the digital age, not only is technology going to cure cancer but also my loneliness. Our desire for deep emotional connection—the new driving force behind technology—culminates in the creation of the OS that, at least for…

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Healthy Hearts, Smoldering Resentments, and the Starting Point of Compassion

Healthy Hearts, Smoldering Resentments, and the Starting Point of Compassion

Given the popularity of the section we posted from Paul Zahl’s Grace in Practice a few weeks ago on Competition in Marriage, here’s one that’s bound to be a little less popular… It can be found under the rather unsexy heading of “The Relation of the Un-Free Will to Compassion”–and yet it is one of the most important passages in the book, spelling out much of what lies behind this site’s focus on human limitation, i.e. its relation to love:

Perhaps the man you live with is smoldering with resentment. Most of his resentments are founded on half-facts and…

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New Music: Derek Webb’s I Was Wrong, I’m Sorry & I Love You

New Music: Derek Webb’s I Was Wrong, I’m Sorry & I Love You

Derek Webb’s first solo album, She Must and Shall Go Free, has long been one of the most important pieces of music in my life. When I first heard it I was still in high school, a teenager very much trying to live up to the Law, exhausting myself on a daily basis by sifting through every action and comparing it to my personal set of rules for Good Christian Behavior. She Must and Shall Go Free pointed me toward the Gospel—God’s one-way love and inexhaustible grace expressed through Christ—and began a transformation in my understanding of Christian living that…

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Uncoerced Love in Chaos and Grace

Uncoerced Love in Chaos and Grace

An excerpt from Mark Galli’s Chaos and Grace: Discovering the Liberating Work of the Holy Spirit:

Freedom is not some abstract concept about the ability of the human will. It is nothing less than a way to talk about love. When writing about love, I’m often tempted to add an adjective to it and talk about uncoerced love. True love is always uncoerced, always freely given. But we live in an age in which love is often construed as an obligation or a quid pro quo. We love our spouses because they love us. Or we are required to love the poor….

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Dying to Be Loved: Lana del Rey’s Tragic Bleeding Heart

Dying to Be Loved: Lana del Rey’s Tragic Bleeding Heart

In her new song for The Great Gatsby soundtrack called “Young and Beautiful,” Lana del Rey sings about her two favorite topics—love and death. In the music video, the ever-glamorous, ever-pouty del Rey asks the hypothetical guy she is singing to, “Will you still love me when I’m no longer young and beautiful?” These lyrics are classic Lana, but in the third verse things get interesting:

Dear Lord, when I get to heaven
Please let me bring my man
When he comes tell me that you’ll let him in
Father tell me if you can
All that grace, all that body
All that face makes me…

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What’s Love Got To Do With It?

What’s Love Got To Do With It?

“And I want love to change my friends to enemies, change My friends to enemies, and show me how its all my fault … And I won’t let love disrupt, corrupt, or interrupt me” – Jack White in “Love Interruption”

I’ve been struggling these past months, through and past Lent and into Eastertide, with what it means to love. There’s no hiddenness on the subject in Scripture–”By this we know love, that He laid down His life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers.” This among multiple other passages.

At the same time, we live with…

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The Self-Abandonment of Love, According to Rudolf Bultmann

The Self-Abandonment of Love, According to Rudolf Bultmann

In celebration of Valentine’s Day, here are a few choice quotes on love from the great Lutheran New Testament scholar, Rudolf Bultmann:

“An act of friendship or love is genuine only if I am really in the doing of it, and do not stand alongside it: only when I do not think of myself and my achievement, only when the left hand does not know what the right hand is doing: only when I think of absolutely nothing bu the person on whom I am bestowing it. A Work of love is fundamentally easy even when I exhort it from myself…

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Previously on Parenthood, Pt. 5: Perfect Love & Prodigal Returns

Previously on Parenthood, Pt. 5: Perfect Love & Prodigal Returns

This is the fifth installment in a look at the theological and pastoral wisdom found in the current season of NBC’s Parenthood, mostly regarding the intersection of unsuspected love in the context of suffering. It has been almost a month since I have written anything, mostly because I felt the program was in the middle of a filler-episode streak, understandably serving to carry on the narratives of its many subplots but not standing out with profound moments of grace in ways earlier episodes have. Don’t get me wrong. There were some touching moments in recent episodes like Adam caring for Kristina…

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Elmo Loves You

Elmo Loves You

About a year ago my daughter developed a deep affection for that furry red monster from Sesame Street, Elmo. I admit at first I was skeptical: Isn’t that the annoying little Muppet, you know, the one with the irritating laugh? But my wife and I quickly learned the power that the YouTube video of “Elmo’s Song” had in calming down an irate toddler, so we grew to appreciate Elmo.

About the same time, the documentary Being Elmo: A Puppeteer’s Journey was released. I’m a little behind the game here given the documentary is no current event, but I feel obligated to write something…

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Kierkegaard on Erotic Love, Divine Sorrow and True Imputation

Kierkegaard on Erotic Love, Divine Sorrow and True Imputation

We’re embarking on one of Kierkegaard’s bizarre thought-experiments here, on the love of God in Christ. It’s anthropomorphic, it’s controversial, and it’s all possibly a crock of you-know-what…but it’s deeply moving and, to this blogger’s mind, it brings out some brilliant aspects of God’s love and imputation’s reality.

God’s eternal motive with regard to man is to make His love understood – just to communicate it, in the same way a romantic feels compulsion to send a love letter or an avid fan absolutely must praise the author of a book or song. God’s love for us compels him to make that…

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New Music: The Walkmen’s Heaven

New Music: The Walkmen’s Heaven

The title track on the newest Walkmen record Heaven, seems to suggest that heaven, at least in the realm of human relationships, does not come easy, placing the band on the periphery of the cheery perfection of love promised by many modern day pop songs. In keeping with the band’s encouragement on this track to “remember, remember, all we fight for,” their approach to their craft throughout the thirteen songs on Heaven, although bathed in a pop sheen, reveals a deep, mature take on the pop music genre tempered by age and experience. Heaven being my first encounter with The…

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Can a Gorgeous Olympian Find Love…Please?

Can a Gorgeous Olympian Find Love…Please?

Lolo Jones, owner of a beautiful face, sculpted physique, one of sports’ coolest names and the American record in the 60 meter hurdles, can’t find a boyfriend.  Why?  She won’t sleep with any of her suitors.  Male depravity has never been in more glaring display than when, as Jones reports, a man told her that having sex with him would “make her run faster.”

Jones is perhaps the first person I’ve ever heard make this admission without talking about their Christian faith. A saved celebrity virginity is almost always presented as a testament to the celebrity’s faith in God, and their…

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Mockingbird (Conference) at the Movies: Hollywood’s Love Affair with Love

Mockingbird (Conference) at the Movies: Hollywood’s Love Affair with Love

C.S. Lewis described four kinds of love (based on the four Greek words): affection, friendship, romance, and charity (unconditional love). Since I’m about half as smart as him, I’ll say that, at the root, there are two kinds of love: love that requires something, and love that requires nothing. In this break-out session at the upcoming Mockingbird Conference (Friday, April 20th at 2:30pm), we’ll look at these two loves through the celluloid eyes of Hollywood.

In their effort to get us to put cash on the barrelhead at theaters across the country, the movies often tempt us with stories of love….

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