Conference Breakout – People are Strange: Modern Family, the Un-Free Will and the Roots of Compassion
by R-J Heijmen on Apr 17, 2012 • 9:57 am 10 CommentsAlright, so I know that my breakout session was supposed to be “What Would Don Draper Do (to Eric Taylor)? Downward Mobility and Grace in Mad Men and Friday Night Lights”, and I’ll touch on those themes and would be happy to discuss them over drinks (Shiner or Rye:), but as someone once said, “the wind blows wherever it pleases,” and I have found my thinking gusting in other directions. Not to mention that, judging by Season 5 of Mad Men (at least so far), Don Draper and Eric Taylor aren’t such polar opposites anymore, and might actually be friends! Don has experienced his fair share of failure and has been seemingly sanctified by the experience.
All that being said, here’s where my heart is at present:
About 10 years ago, as my wife and I were coming to terms with Law/Gospel theology and all of its implications for our lives, we tried a little thought experiment: what if we actually believed in what Luther called the “bondage of the will”? What would happen if we tried to see people as out-of-control of themselves – their actions, words and emotions?
In this experiment, we made a startling discovery: compassion. As we began to see our family, friends, strangers, each other, even ourselves, as being mastered by (rather than masters of) the raging storms of human existence, both internal and external, a great love welled up in us for all of the world’s sorry saps who, just like us, were doing the best they could, and mostly failing.
In my breakout session, we will be examining the bondage of the will and its import (indeed necessity!) for all loving relationships. Watching and listening to clips from Modern Family, Downton Abbey, United States of Tara, Radiolab and This American Life, we will discover the joy and freedom that comes from admitting that everyone (including us) is basically insane, and the humility and compassion enabled by this confession.













10 comments
david babikow says:
Apr 17, 2012
R-J This sounds terrific! Would that I had learned this at your age. Thankfully I finally did and I still am which is why at my age I will be at the Conference.
R-J Heijmen says:
Apr 17, 2012
David – Thanks for this! See you in a few days…
Steve Martin says:
Apr 17, 2012
This IS the root of the problem.
This is why so many have such a hard time with God actually being present and doing something for us in the sacraments (Baptism and Supper).
We just can’t let go of that ‘little bit’ that we feel is worth something.
R-J Heijmen says:
Apr 17, 2012
Steve Paulsen says the same thing in his most recent book “Luheran Theology”: everything comes down to freewill.
John Zahl says:
Apr 17, 2012
Here’s another quote from Paulson that says the same thing: “There are not many who have been willing to follow Luther as he is ‘forced to confess’ the captivation of the will…Yet what a vast difference it makes for a preacher to stand before a congregation and assume their will are bound rather than to stand before a group and assume their wills are merely in need of motivation.” (Paulson, from p. xi of Forde’s “The Captivation of the Will”, introduction)
Jeff Hual says:
Apr 18, 2012
R-J, All I can say is “Wow”.
R-J Heijmen says:
Apr 19, 2012
Thanks Jeff!
Mark Vruggink says:
Apr 22, 2012
R-J..what a great session and it was great to talk to you afterward! I really appreciate the insights you shared concerning your journey and all I can say is, “I need to learn this over and over again!” Blessings.
Rita Lee says:
Jul 21, 2012
Dear RJ, I miss your iTunes podcasts. Is there a way I can download them from a website.
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